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The Story of Buildings

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Cynthia Thompson, President of the San Buenaventura Conservancy, on history, homes and a community identity

You might expect the President of San Buenaventura Conservancy, the organization responsible for identifying and protecting landmarks and historical buildings across the county, to live in some beautiful, historic home with ground-breaking architecture and a high-profile first owner.

But Cynthia Thompson isn’t exactly what you expect. The L.A. native lives in a duplex in Oak View — “All we could afford,” she says. And she wasn’t saying as a little girl, “When I grow up I want to be a historic preservationist.”

In fact, Thompson started out in the movie industry, as a buyer for set decoration and props. She might have stayed in L.A., and in this line of work, if life hadn’t intervened.

After the riots in 1992, she moved to Ventura County to give her kids (two sons and a daughter) a safer place to grow up. However, she was still working in L.A. and fully planned to return to the city when her kids were grown.

“For the first six years I lived here, I really didn’t live here,” she says. “I slept here.”

But in 1998, her stepfather died. It was clear she needed to move her mother to Ventura, and that she’d have to stay in town to take care of her. That’s when she applied for a job at the Pierpont Inn, hoping her experience doing historical research for the movies could lead to a job as a historian and period-specific interior designer. It did, thanks to new owner Spencer Garrett. And that’s when her life changed.

“I was totally fascinated,” she says. She spent increasing amounts of time doing research at the Ventura County Museum of History and Art, learning about the historical buildings all over Ventura, about the importance of cultural tourism, and about financial incentives for properties that are officially designated. Riveted by this new field of research, she enrolled in a course on historic preservation at USC. “It just sort of grew from there.”

Another shift came in 2000, as she was helping plan a celebration for the Pierpont’s 90th anniversary. In conjunction with the museum, she helped organize the 1910 Ventura County Exposition, an event which brought together historical societies from across the county to present booths reflecting their community’s culture at the turn of the century. “It was just fabulous,” she says. Around the same time, the Downtown and Midtown Community Councils wanted to plan an event to celebrate their architecture, producing the first Ventura Architecture Tour.

The final catalyst in the birth of the Conservancy, and the new direction of Thompson’s career, came in 2004, when it was clear the Mayfair Theater would be lost. This building wasn’t only a magical window into another time, but was the only building in Ventura designed by star architect S. Charles Way (known for his Art Moderne and free-line modern style).

With so many people in the community coming to appreciate Ventura’s unique architecture, and faced with the heartbreak of losing one of its best examples, a group of concerned citizens came together to keep such a thing from happening again. Thus, the Conservancy was born. Soon after, Thompson’s life took shape around historic preservation: She’s not only president of the Conservancy’s board, but an historic preservation consultant and period-inspired and period-correct interior designer.

Why does she do it? Why is preserving a sense of Ventura’s history important?

On a very basic level, says Thompson, “your identity is in your built environment.” It isn’t only Ventura’s unique position sandwiched between the ocean and the mountains or its quirky agricultural history that makes it, well, Ventura. It’s the mission, the old bank building, the Bellamaggiore, the charming midtown houses. These are what define Ventura, says Thompson, and what makes it both worth living in and worth visiting.

And if it’s worth visiting, that means it’s bringing in tourist revenue: from people staying at our hotels, eating in our restaurants, shopping in our malls and paying for our goods and services. “Tourism is extremely important to the lifeblood of a city,” explains Thompson, “and particularly to a seaside community such as Ventura.”

On another level, historic preservation is a movement that runs parallel to the sustainability movement, both trying to conserve resources in an environment that threatens to use them into extinction.

“It’s about, ‘How do you find environmentally resourceful ways to maintain what we have, without this slash-and-burn mentality?,” she says. “There’s nothing greener than a historic building.”

Beyond philosophical and financial reasons for preserving Ventura’s landmarks, Thompson has a personal reason to be so involved in this process.

“I think it has to do with mortality,” she explains. “When you’re gone, you’re gone. So what is there to say that you were here?”

She points to the Pierponts and the families who have maintained the historic hotel over its nearly century-long life, or to Eugene Preston Foster, whose family donated the city’s library, Seaside Park and Community Memorial Hospital, and who was instrumental in forming the city’s school and park systems. These people left a tangible legacy behind, she says. But not being wealthy, Thompson’s contribution has to be something different.
“I think all of us would like to leave behind something that lasts — that makes a lasting impression. I can’t build buildings,” she says, but she can work with the conservancy to protect the ones that are already here — and make sure new buildings are worthy future landmarks. “It’s a way of perpetuating the culture for the future, to leave something behind that may make a difference by affecting policy and attitude in Ventura.”

So what, exactly, does a conservancy do? It raises awareness about historic preservation through events like the Architecture Weekend, for one. It works with government bodies to protect specific properties. It prepares national register, landmark and historic district norminations. Specifically, the conservancy is currently working on saving elements of the Mayfair Theater and saving buildings like the Top Hat, the Elks Lodge and the Masonic Temple building from destruction or reconstruction.
Though the Conservancy wasn’t formed in time to save the Mayfair, Thompson hopes it will be able to keep other Mayfairs from disappearing off Ventura’s map. When asked about some of her favorite projects, though, she says (in true diplomat form) that she loves them all equally. But she does point to several buildings she’s had a particular connection to: the Foster House at 2717 Ventura Avenue, and the Gould family home, added to the Architecture Weekend in 2004.

The Foster House, said Thompson, is “the single most socially significant residence in the city of Ventura.” It’s also severely neglected, often broken into and used as a squat for the homeless. The Conservancy is trying to work out a partnership with the school district, which currently owns the home, to restore it. If they don’t, she worries, “Frankly, it’s in danger of being burnt to the ground.”

The Gould House is the only Greene & Greene designed house in Ventura County. When the grandchildren inherited the house, it had no historical protection whatsoever. They could have sold it. Instead, they worked with Cynthia for four years to help get its official designation.

“And of course I love and will always deeply love the Pierpont Inn because I was so intrinsically involved in it,” she added.

She’s also excited about the way two newer projects have blended into the historical landscape. The best example of compatible infill, she said, is directly across from Memorial Park. On either side are bungalows built in the 1920s. Though the new building is larger than surrounding buildings, it blends well without being jarring. Another is the proposed WAV (Working Artists Ventura) project, a state-of-the-art community designed to provide live/work space for artists. “It can be an extremely contemporary statement,” she says.

“It’s important that 50 years from now that we have some statements in the built environment that shows we were here, that we’re creating landmarks for the future … not that we’re replicating the past.”

A perfect example of this outside Ventura, she says, is Frank O. Gehry’s Walt Disney Concert Hall in Los Angeles. “I’m not always crazy about his style, but you can’t deny genius,” she said. And there’s no question that the building is an automatic landmark, placing you at the beginning of the 21st century.”

And now, with cultural tourism at an all-time high after September 11, these issues are morCynthiae important than ever.

“Buildings last a long time, but people don’t,” she says. “In the story of our buildings, there is the story of our existence.”

For more information about the San Buenaventura Conservancy, call 800-701-7237 or visit www.sbconservancy.org.

(Photo by Brenda Manookin)

November 01, 2006 in Features, Ventana Monthly Magazine | Permalink | Comments (0) | TrackBack (0)

The Fast Track

It’s 8:10 p.m. and I’m sitting in my car, preparing for my undercover assignment. I’ve donned my costume — plaid pants, careful swipes of kohl eyeliner, a trendy gold bag. I’ve prepared my story: I’m Emily Ocean, single, a freelance writer and arts administrator and I live in Santa Barbara.

Right now I’m gathering my strength, and watching my targets.

I see two of them, a parking row away, traversing the sidewalk toward the wine bistro. They’re both balding. Both wear button-down shirts tucked into dress pants. Both are in their late 30s. This is scarier than I expected. I take a deep breath.

These are the men I will soon be pretending to date.

If, that is, you can actually call speed dating “dating.” What I’m about to do is meet ten different men and talk to them for six minutes each before deciding who, if anyone, I’d like to talk to again. Sure, the word “dating” is in the name of the event, and in the name of the company running it (VC Fastdating), but the word seems a bit too strong for what we’ll be doing — kind of like calling a trip to the In-N-Out drive-thru dining. This is more like “pre-date screening;” which is exactly why it appealed to me in the first place.

I’ve been interested in intentional dating methods ever since my mom tried video dating in the ’80s. And I was intrigued again when, much later, my cousin found his now-wife on Match.com: he’d requested a “punk rock librarian” and got a stylish hipster redhead with progressive politics and degree in library science, which tickled me. I imagined it like ordering sushi or maybe a sandwich at a deli: “I’ll take a smart Jewish boy, easy on the over-involved mother, extra sarcasm and a side of rhythm, please. Oh, and I’ll take passionate infatuation to start, thanks.”

Speed dating had a similar appeal, though I was more ambivalent about it. I liked the idea of meeting lots of people in a short period of time, rather than wasting an entire evening with someone I knew I didn’t like after five minutes. But it also seemed a bit juvenile, like grown-up musical chairs, and also so American: How can we make dating bigger, better, faster?

I couldn’t decide if speed dating was the perfect example of everything that’s wrong with American culture, or if it was the best thing to hit the dating world since the invention of booze.

From the start, I knew that I couldn’t go in as myself: a curious reporter in a long-term relationship. The company would probably let me, but I still wouldn’t know what it’s like to participate in speed-dating, to actually meet people this way.

So I lied.

I chose a pseudonym, I opened a yahoo e-mail account with my new name, I signed up on the web, paid my $35 dollars and then tried to talk my boyfriend into going with me (undercover, too, of course).

Instead, he made me dinner, kissed me goodbye and shouted “Have fun on your dates!” as I left the house.


The ten-ring circus

The idea is to act and feel as if I’m really single, and it works. I’m nervous. I consider bailing about 20 times on the drive to Cousin’s Wine Tasting Bar, a new Camarillo establishment in the same shopping center where my family has bought their groceries for 15 years and where, as a teenager, I used to steal cosmetics and cigarettes. It has that shopping center feel on the outside: nondescript, roof too low to the ground, stucco walls that don’t discriminate between here and there.

And inside, the small place is almost full. The older group (ages 40 to 55) is just finishing up, so it’s hard to tell who will be in my peer group, who’s in the older group and who’s just a regular bar patron. I, on the other hand, feel completely exposed and transparent. Not only do I have no idea what I’m doing, but I’m a good decade younger than most of the people I see, and I’m pretty sure I’m the only one here who had her first kiss at a Ministry concert and who doesn’t own a house.

I sign in with Kimberlina Andre Fouché, the warm, friendly co-founder of VC Fast-dating, and get my nametag: “Emily #6.” And then we wait. I escape to the bathroom, and then to the wine counter, where I meet my first match.

A man in a dark sweater has just ordered a drink and I’m relieved to see him. Straight teeth. Nice smile. About my age, or a little older. I ask for the wine list and it turns out he’s drinking beer. “Perfect!” I think, “We’re already compatible,” as I order a Levitation Ale (the place has a great selection of beers, by the way).

I wonder if I’m breaking some kind of rule by talking to this guy before the official dating starts. I already know he’ll be a match, and I’m sure that’s obvious to everyone else in the room. And I know it’s not paranoid to think I’m being watched — that’s what we’re all here for.

As we chat, some of my nervousness washes away. This guy is so nice, so normal — and not in an over-the-top kind of way but in an I-could-spend-an-evening-with-you kind of way. He doesn’t seem desperate or creepy or lonely at all. He’s just done with the bar scene and likes to meet new people.

It turns out a lot of the men I meet later are in a similar situation. Many are homeowners, or plan to be soon. Many are fairly settled. They are engineers and consultants. They work in computers or real estate. They own their own businesses. They’re successful, busy and mostly in their mid- to late-30s.

What happens next is a whirlwind. We’re told to go to the numbered tables that correspond with our nametags. The women will stay seated and the men will rotate around.

Fouché later explains to me why the women usually are the ones to stay stationary. “Women carry a lot of baggage,” she says, but she means it literally. “They have their purses, they have their jackets …”

The effect is like ten princesses in a room, receiving our suitors six minutes at a time. I can’t see the other women very well. Some seem around my age, others a little older. None are particularly striking — not overly flashy or overly fat or overly ugly or overly pretty. Most are just normal people, it seems. There’s an Asian woman facing me, and I’m sharing a table with a black woman who seems as disoriented as I feel. We all have carbon-copy worksheets for marking who we meet and whether we like them as a “match” or a “friend/business” contact.

And then the game starts. I talk to man after man, our mini-sessions ending with whistle blasts that remind me of circuit-training in junior high school P.E. While they’re moving from one table to the next, we’re all desperately trying to write shorthand notes so that later we’ll still be able to match names with first impressions.

By the end, I’m sure I’ve done it all wrong. I should’ve written different, more useful notes instead of “real estate guy” or “likes to travel” or “40.” I should’ve prepared questions ahead of time instead of resorting to my usual ways of talking to strangers (trying to be a good, charming hostess; trying to find common ground; trying to make them feel comfortable). I shouldn’t have ordered beer, which then gave me a buzz for half the night.

But Fouché disagrees. She says the less prepared and more natural you are, the better.


The six-minute date

So how much can you really learn in six minutes? A lot, it turns out.

One of the men I dated, Sean (who’s been doing this for five years), later told me that it hardly matters what he and a woman talk about — he never remembers anyway. What he gets is more of a general impression. Is he attracted to her? Does their conversation flow? Does he feel comfortable? One of the reasons he chose me as a potential match, he said, was because I seemed interesting, a little nervous and sincere. More importantly, it seemed, I smile a lot. Something he finds attractive.

This is exactly why he prefers speed dating to internet dating, which seems too distant and too unpredictable to him. After having had an experience where a woman he met online ended up much chubbier in person than her picture led him to believe, he’d rather just meet the woman face-to-face right up front.

And as someone who’s a little shy, he much prefers speed dating to meeting women in bars. There, “you don’t necessarily know who’s single and why they’re in the bar … they’re more likely to shut you down or roll their eyeballs at you,” he said. And that’s if he approaches them at all. More likely, he wouldn’t. At speed dating, “you’re forced to talk to someone, whether they’re your type or not.”

As for the time limit, Sean says six minutes is plenty. “We have a map in our head of qualities we like in people — the way they smile or the way they laugh or their physical build,” he said. “You get a feel for someone much quicker in talking to them for five minutes as opposed to trying to write to someone.”

And I have to agree with him. Though I couldn’t tell you much about any of the men I met, I could tell immediately if I was physically attracted to someone and if we had any chemistry. Some men sat across from me like interrogators and some got so close I instinctively moved my chair back. Some men sat straight in their chairs and others hunched over. With some men, six minutes was eternity and I was just trying to fill up the space with words. With others, we’d only just gotten started in six minutes and I was sad to see them go.

I don’t feel fireworks or rose-petal rainstorms with any of the men I meet, but there are definitely some I connect with more than others. It’s clear who my matches will be:

1. Adam. I liked him within five seconds. He was attractive, friendly, and I liked his style: black blazer over a black shirt. It turns out he grew up in Moorpark, and used to attend daycare in this very shopping center. I told him how I puked in the McDonald’s sink the second time I got drunk. He confessed he’s probably pissed on a tire in the restaurant’s parking lot. We smiled and laughed and the words came effortlessly. I wasn’t sure if we’d be compatible in a relationship — after all, I don’t puke in sinks anymore (as he, presumably, doesn’t piss on tires, either).

2. Miles. Though we weren’t quite as flirty when the teacher made his way to my table, I still liked him — and felt that he was already my ally at the event, which seemed like a good sign. I liked that he’s educated; and he seemed like someone with long-term potential. He also seemed to have good boundaries.

3. Greg. There were two things about Greg that initially put me off — he sat so close our knees touched, and he told me about his ex-wife and ex-fiancee right off the bat. But as far as I could tell, his values and interests were more in line with mine than anyone else there, and he seemed genuinely interested in me. He also spoke German (a huge plus), and it didn’t hurt that he had those ski-instructor good looks.

4. Joe. He was the surprise. Though thinner and more conservative than I usually like (he, too, had a button-down shirt tucked into slacks), Joe dazzled me with intelligence and good conversation. He worked in some kind of media, though didn’t want to specify what company, and he offered me a potential job. When he got up, I wrote on my worksheet, “I like him.”

Everyone else goes under “friends.”

And, after an hour is up, the whole thing ends just as quickly as it started. People get up, turn in their worksheets and leave. A few couples stay at their tables, and Greg comes back to mine. I genuinely like him, and I feel bad that I’m not being totally honest with him. I’ve been careful to be as authentic as possible with everyone — with my interests, values, goals. I treat them all exactly as I would if I were single — flirty with the ones I like, friendly but distant with the ones I don’t. But I start to sense that my ruse is working too well, and I don’t like it. I wonder if I should come clean, but the experiment isn’t over yet. Greg walks me out and we hug. I expect that he’ll probably hate me before all this is over.

I’m exhausted. Ten dates is a lot of work. I’m grateful the whole thing was so quick and smooth. I’ll be in my pajamas by 11.

The next step is just to wait for the results by e-mail. And, of course, tell my boyfriend how it all went.


The two-mornings after

It later turns out that my instincts are right. When I get an e-mail two days later (which, by the way, feels like a cross between Christmas morning and getting your slambooks back from your friends), it seems my four favorites have chosen me as a “match” as well. There are another four who’ve also chosen me as a “match,” though I’ve only picked them as friends. I also get a list of the men who listed me as a potential friend or business contact. Next to everyone’s name is their phone number and e-mail address. A day later, I start getting phone calls and e-mails.

Greg is first. Then Adam. I get an e-mail from Joe, who can’t remember who I am, and another from one of my “friends.” Miles e-mails, too. All of them want to talk again. I wait a few days to break the news of my true identity to them, mostly because I’m chicken. I really like these people, and I’m afraid I’m going to hurt their feelings. I finally send an e-mail, explaining that I’m writing a story but also assuring them that I’ll respect everyone’s anonymity, that I was as authentic as I could be without giving away my cover, that I’d like to talk to them for my story but understand if they never wanted to talk to me again. Then I wait.

Joe opts out of staying in touch. Miles commends me on my acting abilities, and good-naturedly agrees to talk to me for the story. Another on the “friend” list also says I did a great job of staying undercover, after feigning indignation at my gall. Another man, who has chosen me as a “match,” is very upset. “How could you do this?” he asks in his e-mail, and then suggests that I redeem myself by introducing him to my single friends. The first man I talked to, who also chose me as a “match,” also wants a trade: his cooperation with the story in exchange for one evening of my time, taking him to places in Santa Barbara where “STRAIGHT, QUALITY TWENTY-SOMETHINGS regularly hang out, preferably LARGE NUMBERS [his emphasis].”

I never hear back from Greg or Adam, which doesn’t surprise me. They’re the ones I connected to the most, and are probably the ones who most justifiably feel betrayed. Or maybe they’re already on to dating one of the other ten women they met that night, and have forgotten me already.


The bottom line

Sean, too, is more than happy to talk, even though he chose me as a “match” and I put him as a “friend.” When he hears that a few of the other guys were upset, he’s surprised.

Speed dating “isn’t that big of a deal,” he says. As for the event we attended together, the veteran says it wasn’t the best, mostly because of the turnout. Every event is different, and everyone who shows up impacts the total experience.

Fouché agrees, saying that every event has its own flavor. The demographic skews younger in Westlake and Thousand Oaks, for example. People dress up more when it’s on a weekend. In Santa Barbara, it’s harder to find women to sign up for the younger group and men to sign up for the older one. And once people try VC Fastdating, they often come back — sometimes driving from Ventura to Westlake for an event.

The reason? “It’s fun,” says Sean. Even though he’s only chosen about five “matches” out of the 130 women he’s met this way, and only gone out with 12 (including some he didn’t choose as “matches,” of course), he says it’s a great way to meet new people, learn about how to interact and increase his odds of meeting a true match.

What’s more, says Fouché, it does work. Though she’s single, her best friend met her soon-to-be husband at a VC Fastdating event. Another couple live together. Countless more pairs have met, dated, split apart. Fouché doesn’t always hear about them, partly because many people are shy about having met through fast dating.

But that idea makes no sense to Fouché. What’s embarrassing about wanting to meet someone? How is it any different than going to a bar with the explicit purpose of meeting someone? When it’s suggested that people assume speed daters are strange, desperate or lower-class, she laughs. And so does Sean, who’s met doctors, lawyers, Amgen employees and a whole lot of schoolteachers through speed dating. “If you’re trying to figure out what kind of person really does it, I don’t think you can narrow it down,” he says.

Fouché agrees. In fact, many of the people she sees are the opposite of what stereotypes might dictate. They’re successful, busy people who don’t have time to go out and prefer not to meet people at bars. Many of the women haven’t been out in a while and like the safe, controlled environment as a way to meet men (no one’s allowed to ask for personal information or ask each other on dates at the event; you must wait until you get your results). Most share a common goal: they’re serious about meeting someone. Occasionally, people are “on the prowl” for something a little less wholesome, but not that often. And she tries to weed out anyone creepy as quickly as possible.

“It’s not as scary as it looks,” says Fouché, and I have to agree. In fact, I liked it. And I’m sure it would be more fun the second or third time around, when I’m less nervous and know what to expect. Of course, I’m not planning to be in a position to try it again any time soon — or possibly ever. But if I were to suddenly find myself single, I would actually consider this as a way to meet someone (although I’d be more likely to do it in a larger city, where there’d be a greater diversity of age ranges and backgrounds).

I liked the no-hard-feelings, no-holds-barred philosophy and the fact that you don’t have to sleep with your date before you find out he’s a pot smoker. You don’t have to get emotionally invested before you realize he doesn’t ever want to have kids. Hell, you can even find out if he’s an early riser before you ever share a meal together — and all without the pressure of being alone together for a long period of time.

The bottom line is that speed-dating reminds me of a friend who always schedules a coffee or lunch date for her first meeting, because it’s short (by definition) and easy to get out of if the guy’s a dud. That always seemed like a great idea to me, and speed dating is just a streamlined version of that: The Coffee Date Version 2.0.

The verdict is still out, though, on the result of my experiment as an undercover lover. Were I ever to do something like this again, I might do it a little differently. It’s hard to know, but I’m not sure gonzo journalism is quite my thing. Then again, there is a lock-and-key event coming up …

Editor’s note: All the names of daters have been changed in this story to protect their anonymity. Interested in trying Fast Dating for yourself? Look for events in Santa Barbara on Jan. 28, Newbury Park on Feb. 22 and Ojai on March 5. For something a little different, try a free group outing in Simi Valley on Feb. 6 (a great way to check out the company and the type of people who participate in Fastdating, says Fouché) or the lock and key Valentine mixer in Camarillo on Feb. 12 (women wear a lock around their necks, men wear a key. When you find the right lock-key match, you get a raffle ticket. The real prize, though, is getting yet another excuse to talk to strangers and meet potential dates). For more information, visit www.vcfastdating.com.

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January 26, 2006 in Essays, Features, VC Reporter | Permalink | Comments (0) | TrackBack (0)

Burning Woman

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VC REPORTER
PUBLISHED 10/07/04

BURNING WOMAN

BY MOLLY FREEDENBERG
PHOTOS BY JEFF CLARK http://www.jeffclarkphoto.com


I’m on my knees in the dust as my boyfriend liberates a handful of curls from my head with a pair of scissors. Behind me, a wooden structure the size of a bathroom is on fire in a burn barrel. In front of me, two neon-bedecked art cars are parked. A girl in white fake fur gets off one and gives me a bottle of sweet-tasting liquor, then kisses me on the lips. A friend takes photos as another handful of hair leaves my head and joins a pile of dark locks on a nearby chair. I hear the snip snip of the scissors, the oon-cha-oon-cha of the electronic music coming from one of the cars, the laughter and cheering of people watching my first-ever serious haircut. Tears escape my eyes. I take another absurdly large swig of liquor. It’s sometime between midnight and dawn. I’m wearing a leather corset, a velvet jacket and increasingly less hair. Within hours, I will be riding a fire cannon while the sun rises over a desolate desert landscape and my hair, with its 26 years of memories, associations and pain, smolders in a pile on the ground below.
This is Burning Man.

But this is just one moment of Burning Man, and one moment of my experience of it, at that. There are as many descriptions and explanations of this annual event as there are people who attend—and every year, that number grows. Some would call it an art festival, a spiritual retreat, a utopian city, a summer camp for grown-ups. Some take Burning Man very seriously, such as the people who refer to it as “home” and organize events like “Hands Across the Playa.” Others see it as an opportunity to take nothing—including the event itself—seriously, such as those who staged a protest against “Hands Across the Playa” (carrying signs like “Holding Hands is French” and trying to play Red Rover with straight-faced hand-holders). Many maintain a certain ambivalence about the event, going every year but complaining about the price the whole way.
That’s why it’s hard to answer the question: What is Burning Man? And it’s why people will tell you that you can’t understand Burning Man until you’ve been.
But there are certain things I can tell you. The undisputable facts about Burning Man are this: it’s an annual event held in the Black Rock Desert in Nevada (the nearest town is Gerlach, about 100 miles from Reno) during the week encompassing Labor Day. It was started on a beach in San Francisco by Oregon-born Larry Harvey and some friends when they ritualistically burned an effigy of a man. Soon the event grew so large, Harvey & Co. had to find another location: the notoriously uninhabitable dry lakebed referred to as the playa. Every year, a city is erected and then torn down—it’s now reached 30,000 people and, for one week, is the seventh largest city in Nevada.
The idea is radical self-expression. People wear costumes, build crazy art projects and then sometimes burn them, supply themselves with everything they need, and exchange no money except for ice and coffee—the only amenities an American dollar will buy you while there. Vending, advertising and political leafleting are forbidden.
So is making a mess. Signs everywhere remind you to “Leave No Trace.” People carry Altoids tins for their cigarette butts and ashes, and carry their garbage home with them. It’s like Brigadoon: When participants and organizers leave, there is no visible sign that the event ever took place.
Just about everything else about BM is subjective. So what you’re about to read is an account of a week in the life of one particular burner.

IN THE BEGINNING
Though Burning Man officially takes place for a week, it lasts much longer than that for most burners. After that first fateful visit, most people find much of the rest of their year is related to the event. When you get home, there are “decompression” parties where pictures and slides are shown, dust-covered costumes are modeled and people are gently eased back into their “real” lives; then, as Burning Man approaches, there are “recompression” parties, where people can get amped for the upcoming even; and in-between there are camp fundraisers, theme parties and regional events nearly every weekend.
After my first Burning Man, I spent the whole year shopping for costumes, planning dances for performances, learning to spin fire, devising and creating an art project for the outer playa, packing, stocking up on food and meeting with friends about our future camp. This year was different. I wasn’t sure I was even going until early August. I’d started a new job, moved in to a new house, and most importantly, had just entered a beautiful phase of my relationship—a stability I wasn’t sure I wanted to subject to the rigors of Burning Man.
I had no art project planned, no strong investment in my camp, no dances to choreograph. I hadn’t picked up my fire toys in months and hadn’t bought a new costume since Halloween. But I decided that on a personal level, I had to go.
The few days before I left were a frenzy of preparation. I dug my sleeping bag, tent and costumes out of dusty corners. I bought 12 cans of tuna, 12 boxes of Tasty Bites (packaged Indian food from Trader Joe’s), two bottles of Charles Shaw, an entire box of Emergen-C, a container of powdered Gatorade, a camelback water pack, duct tape, beef jerky, salty chips, GORP and a bag full of energy bars.
In the middle of all the preparation, I worked fourteen hour days finishing a project, responded to old emails, and generally made sure I could leave guilt-free. Everything had to be in its place because out on the playa, I wouldn’t be reachable. Nor would I want to be.

SATURDAY
My friend Katie and I left Santa Barbara at 4:00 pm. We took turns driving, stopping near midnight in Berkeley for my college friend, Nathan. There, we strategically repacked the overloaded car, leaving behind three six-packs of Diet Cola, a pair of thigh-high boots, several plastic containers and a headrest from my car. Then we were on the final stretch.
It was still dark when we stopped at the Albertson’s in Reno and spilled out of the car, giddy. A car packed as full as ours, driven by a girl with dreadlocks, was parked in front of us. Soon, a van pulled up and three boys in black gothic-wear tumbled out. We all exchanged knowing smiles. Inside, it was obvious the boxes of water that filled the display-space were for us.
We drove the final three hours with Katie and Nathan sitting on beer cases and water bottles, but no one complained, knowing it was just part of the journey. Getting to Burning Man isn’t supposed to be easy, or everyone would go.

SUNDAY
Soon the sun started to rise and the sagebrush lining the road became sparser. The playa is a true desert: it’s a flat, cracked, dry lakebed stretching infinitely—and identically—in every direction. The ground is beige-white. The sky, though brilliant with colorful sunrises and sunsets, is almost always a monotone grayish-blue.
Nothing lives there. No bugs, no weeds, no trees, no plants are stupid enough to try to exist in the heat and the dust. During Burning Man, there aren’t even dogs—they’re banned because of the extreme conditions. There is nothing alive on the playa except for the people who travel there. It is post-apocalyptic.
We followed orange flags to Will Call.
“Welcome home,” said a greeter at the first gate. He wore a jumpsuit and took sips from a beer (though it was 7am) as he scanned the car for illegal passengers. (For a largely volunteer-based organization, Burning Man is remarkably good at keeping out the riffraff—and kindred spirits who can’t afford the $250 tickets.)
The second greeter asked where we were camped. Clan Destino, we said, referring to a group that started as friends, then became a Burning Man camp, then morphed into a performance troupe, arts collective, party planning company and family. He gave us a map of the city, a guide to the week’s activities, a hug and another “Welcome home.”
The streets of the city were carefully mapped by GPS, camps placed months in advance. Signs on every “block” represented time on a clock (the city radiated in arcs from 2:00 to 10:00, with Center Camp at 6:00 and the Man himself equidistant between 9:00 and 3:00, in the center of a semi-circle).
We finally found Clan Destino at 9:30, almost the end of the city. An impressive bamboo sculpture stood at the front of our camp. Several normal camping tents lined the edge, along with Siobhan’s old-school trailer; two wooden tea houses; and two A-frames built over the beds of pick-up trucks. In the center were two teepees made of canvas and large branches, leading to a three-story-high white-fabric pyramid. Along the other edge, neighboring another camp, was a large truck donated by Hansen’s (on loan to a company employee, the logo blacked out) and the Silverstreak Lounge, an Airstream trailer lined from floor to ceiling with red fake fur.
Then came the greetings—all as though we hadn’t seen each other in years. It’s special to see friends on the playa, even if you just saw them yesterday. It’s like the first hug you give a bride or a graduate after the ceremony, because you know something’s different now. After all, this is a spiritual place.
But it’s also a huge party—and I’ve quietly wondered from the beginning if this can truly be a part of an adult lifestyle. Or if it’s a manifestation of generation-wide (or society-wide) latent adolescence. Does growing up mean growing out of Burning Man? Some burners do have families and real jobs. There are NASA engineers, doctors, lawyers, as well as traveling hippies and Rainbow children and trustafarians and college students on summer break.
But there’s no denying that Burning Man is debaucherous; whether that means staying up all night talking or having casual sex with other men just depends on where your usual boundaries lie. The whole point is unabashed, childlike play. It’s your chance to be the person you always wanted to be, dress the way you want, act the way you want, create the giant playgrounds you dreamed of building in your living room but now have the skill, funding and permission to build. But can you be a grown-up and still build forts?
When I arrived on the playa, though, those doubts slipped away. Contrary to my fears and suspicions, Burning Man was still magic for me.
I worked as much as I could before the sun got too high. Last year I’d slept in my tent, which was a mess of dusty bedclothes and inside-out costumes and during the day became a suffocating oven. This year, I made a bedroom in my boxy Scion (bought with Burning Man in mind), inflating an air mattress, and using safety pins and bungee cords to rig red velvet curtains over the windows that faced the sun.
I set up my tent as my pantry and closet, stacking boxes of food and water on one side and boxes of costumes and warm-weather gear on the other. Soon, I got too tired to work. I found refuge in the white pyramid, which was kept a good 15-to-20 degrees cooler at all times by a swamp cooler (run on melted water from food and drink coolers). Someone made blended vodka and Hansen’s Monster Energy Drink cocktails, which Nathan and I sipped while sitting in overstuffed chairs in front of the fan.
“Burning Man sucks,” I said, the absurdity of being this comfortable in such an uncomfortable place not lost on me.
“Yeah, this is lame,” said Nathan, sipping from his chilly drink while the temperature neared 100 degrees outside.

MONDAY
Nathan spent the morning putting enough lights on the bar car to pass Department of Mutant Vehicles (DMV) inspection—an example of the rules and regulations that have begun to characterize the event as it’s grown. Rumor has it that the event’s first years were so heavy on “radical self-expression” that people brought guns, pets and dangerous art projects—all experienced at your own risk. Several years ago, you could still burn your art right where it stood; now there are designated “burn platforms,” to which all projects must be dragged.
The increasing elements of mainstream culture creeping in to Burning Man are always hard to take. At the same time, Burning Man has also sprouted its own version of “mainstream,” within the subculture’s confines, most notably a Burning Man aesthetic—however paradoxical that sounds.
There are several major categories of Burning Man fashion: Mad Max gothic (leather, lots of buckles and straps, shaved or dreaded hair), some version of hippie (bindi jewels on foreheads, lots of flowing fabric, body painting and bare breasts), a version of the candy raver (clothes and accessories that glow in blacklight, neon colored fake fur hats, glitter on everything), and post-apocalyptic stripper (tiny shorts, shitkicker boots, lingerie, practical hats and goggles).
Each camp also has their own subtle rules: In ours, it was boy shorts, altered/handmade dresses, fishnets, platform boots, bell-bottomed leg warmers and tons of costume make-up for the girls; cowboy hats and 70’s-themed button-up shirts, sarongs, leather Utilikilts and fluffy fake fur coats for the guys.
Last year one friend arrived at her first Burning Man looking aimlessly eclectic; this year she arrived in full-on “Burning Man” regalia, with a head-full of fake dreadlocks made from yarn, a black Utilikilt, white tanktop and big, buckled boots. Though I was pleased to see her finally comfortable as “one of us,” part of me missed her individual style.
“You look great!” my campmates cried. “You’ve lost so much weight!”
Is that still the measure of beauty, I wondered, even out here? Fashion and weight? Were we redefining gender identity, or simply reinforcing it?
On the playa and off, the men of Clan Destino did the hard labor—building the structures, driving the cars, telling others what to do. Meanwhile, the women dressed up, looked pretty, danced sexy and provided the emotional core.
It seemed interesting that in this world where anything goes, where everyone is equal and regular social mores don’t apply, that traditional gender roles still seemed to get played out—and not just in our camp. For the most part, it’s men who carry wood for the effigy of The Man, men who build cars with fire cannons and fight in the Mad Max-themed Thunderdome outside the Death Guild camp. Women wear pasties. They hang provocatively off art cars and graciously accept gifts given more readily to their sex than the other. The men work with their hands; the women work with their bodies.
There are exceptions, of course, and more so here than anywhere else. You won’t be shunned if you reject these roles; and, in fact, Burning Man is more tolerant of gender-bending, alternative lifestyles and general freakishness than any place I’ve ever been. But many people choose to live within social convention, barely masked by iridescent paint and large furry hats. How radical is this really?
A few hours after dark, several of the girls went for a pee break together and took some mushrooms. Then the whole camp clambered onto the bar car to go to a “club” on the other side of the playa (a huge canvas dome with a DJ inside and palm trees “planted” in the dust outside), where there seemed to be an endless supply of bar-scene-type men interested only in cute, half-naked girls and what could be done to get them more naked.
It was too much for me. I started to walk home with Katie and her boyfriend, then realized I didn’t have to go home. Just because I didn’t like the scene I was in didn’t mean I couldn’t find another one.
I start walking alone along the Esplanade, my fur-trimmed velvet coat billowing behind me. People passed by, riding their bikes in groups of two or three or twenty, laughing and talking. I felt outside of it, invisible.
A man on a bike approached me from behind. “I was drawn to talk to you,” he said, and at first I was skeptical, but I let him walk with me, since for some reason I didn’t get the sense that he wanted to have sex with me.
We found our way to a group of couches clustered around a smoldering stove outside a dark camp. The man explained his mission on the playa — to stay sober, provide a secure emotional space for others (a reflection of the Naka-Ima training he’d just gone through).
I told him I was nervous about what it’d be like when my boyfriend arrived. I was afraid I’d lose myself in him, or that I’d lose him. I was afraid we’d break up; and if we did, I was afraid of being alone. “I believe in betrayal and heartbreak,” I told him. “I don’t believe I can be loved.”
He held my hand while I cried, and didn’t let go until I stopped.
We walked towards Center Camp, where he took a photo of me under a giant metal lotus which spat fire, and then we separated. I never saw him again. I still don’t know his name, and I don’t mind.

TUESDAY
Nathan and I went on a search for a friend from college. It’s notoriously hard to find people at Burning Man, even if you know where they’re camped, but we went to the Playa Information tent—where you can register yourself and your location—just in case.
We never found our friend, but in line we ran into another acquaintance, who told us all about the camps we hadn’t seen, including Snuggletown, which advertised all sorts of sex and touching events but apparently was full of desperate middle-aged people you wouldn’t want to touch.
We visited Kevissimo at Foot In A Bucket Camp, where he washed people’s feet, and met up with Finger and Juna, who lived in an all-pink tent.
Later, a friend I’d met at Flipside, a Burning Man spin-off event in Austin, came to visit me at our camp’s bar car. When offered an alcoholic beverage, he declined and I was impressed. Then he put several drops of GHB in his Hansen’s soda and I was a little disappointed; but I realized I shouldn’t have been surprised. He is the man who once said, “If it doesn’t get me high or fuck me, I’m not interested.”
Around sunset, I joined the girls for our nightly ritual: grooming on top of the bar car while drinking Kahlua, vodka and soy milk. We cleaned our feet with baby wipes, slathered them with lotion, put them in fresh socks and replaced our shoes. (The playa dust is hard, and you could walk across it barefoot comfortably—but you shouldn’t, or you’ll get playa foot, a painful condition when your skin dries and then cracks due to the alkali in the dust. Most people wear flip flops with dusty feet, or tennis shoes, hiking boots or platform shoes with socks.)
Then we applied make-up for the night. We talked about what we’d wear later, and how our day was, getting our first buzz of the evening as the sun set over the mountains and the entire playa cheered.
There was a burlesque performance in our camp that night. The circus performances in our camp are always stellar, as the art requires strength, skill, technique and hours of practice. And the dances, though usually thrown together at the last minute, always impress the crowd.
Our camp broke up according to gender after the performance. I don’t know what the boys did, but the girls set off for Paddy’s Mirage, an Irish-style “bar” run by people actually from Ireland, on the other side of the playa.
The wind started blowing before we left, and by the time we were halfway across the playa, we were in the middle of a complete white-out. Dust flew everywhere. All of us wore face masks, goggles and warm coats. We couldn’t see ten feet ahead of us. The only indication of where we were was the neon glow of the Man, and the glow from the few brave souls who were trying to fire dance in the storm.
Siobhan and I walked together, our arms linked and our hands gripping our masks, laughing at our predicament. We both hate being too hot or too cold. We’re both sensitive to the sun, we don’t like being dirty, and neither of us particularly likes wind. But for some reason, we put up with these conditions year after year, and even look forward to them.

WEDNESDAY
Nearly everyone who goes to Burning Man has at least one emotional breakdown. And each person has a different explanation for why it happens. It could be the pure stress of sleep deprivation, dehydration, intense heat, a diet devoid of fresh anything and, for some, the over-consumption of intoxicants. It could also be the effect of watching scantily clad women two sizes smaller than you parade past your boyfriend in an endless stream of glitter and leather and breasts. Or it could be the over-stimulated child syndrome; maybe at Burning Man, we are all just kids who’ve spent too much time at the birthday party without a nap. Eventually, we’re bound to tantrum, whine or just plain collapse.
So it’s been for me every year I’ve gone. Here’s my theory about why it happens:
Burning Man is meant to be a place where we are all free, where everything that keeps us from being our “true” selves in day-to-day life is absent. Which sounds great, and it can be. But that also means everything we use for an excuse for why we’re not happy enough, thin enough, in love enough, or just plain enough also is gone.
On my first day of my first year, before finding the camp I’d driven to meet, I wandered the desert feeling ugly, lonely, thirsty, hungry and in desperate need of a beer. Then I had the sickening realization that my misery was all my own fault. If I couldn’t be happy at Burning Man, the one place where I could shape my own reality, then it must be my own choices, my own neuroses and my own fearful monologues that were holding me back—on and off the playa. The experience was overwhelming, exhausting, and intensely personal and emotional. It seemed no wonder, then, that people often chose to use drugs to escape or cope with the terrifying nature of being faced—perhaps for the first time ever—with themselves.
My second year solidified this theory. I arrived on the playa on Saturday (almost a full week earlier than the year before), and fresh out of a relationship. I also had my art project to construct, and a strict no-drugs policy, which meant I was awake, alert and working during the daytime hours (when my friends were sleeping) and sleeping during the cooler nights (when my friends were partying).
By Wednesday, I was seriously dehydrated and found myself suckling on Gatorade and Emergen-C water in a friend’s tent. I felt better the next day, but was throwing up in the med tent and getting three bags of glucose through an IV by Saturday.
This year, I stacked the odds in my favor: no art project, no dance to choreograph, no camp projects to oversee. I’d gone to therapy the day before my departure, and had bought a camelback, whose water-filled hose rarely ever left my lips. Still, the playa got to me by Wednesday night. It was time for my breakdown.
It just so happened that this was also the biggest night for my camp. The Mutaytor, a percussion band made up of about a zillion musicians and dancers, was using our stage, and before the performance, a burner couple planned to get married. As my camp went about preparing for the event, I got more and more lightheaded and dizzy, until I was afraid I couldn’t make it to my pee-spot behind my car without falling over. I drank water. I drank Gatorade. I ate salty snacks to replace my electrolytes. I ate fatty foods in case I was malnourished. I lay down and waited, but it only got worse.
Soon I was crying. Not just little tears dribbling down my cheeks when some sad thought came into my head, but uncontrollable eye leakage. I didn’t even know why I was crying, but I couldn’t see through the tears. My nose was snotty. My whole head was filled with mucous.
Outside, a thousand people were having fun in my living room, and I couldn’t join in. My body and my heart were telling me they were done, done, done and there was nothing I could do about it.
To make it worse, my boyfriend Jeff, the one person who’d consistently taken care of me at Burning Man, was missing. He’d just arrived and was working on a fire cannon for the Viking ship in another camp. When he finally showed up, hours after he promised, he was too energy-drained to help me—or even to stay. He took off to play with his friends, promising to be back soon, and to sleep with me in my Scion. I felt alone, panicked and pissed off; but I was too sick to react.
Two friends sat with me and helped me sort out the source of my breakdown. Could I really be tired or dehydrated? After all, I’d been drinking so much water I was peeing every half hour, and I was eating salt at every meal. I spent most of the daylight hours resting and so far, I’d been fine.
The only variable that had changed was Jeff had arrived.
Despite my best intentions, I had to admit my focus had changed. From the minute I saw him, I’d stopped thinking about me and my needs and started thinking about him: what he wanted, what he was doing, what he’d think about what I was doing. Physically, I’d followed his lead, walking to several camps (instead of riding the bar car, as I would’ve preferred) and staying out in the sun longer than I otherwise would have. And emotionally, I was expending huge amounts of energy trying to hold back the jealousy, fear of abandonment, insecurity, mistrust in him and in the universe, and the feeling of being trapped that always seemed to surface when we’re on the playa together.
What little energy I had kept afloat with vitamin-infused water was completely drained within twelve hours of seeing the man I was in love with.
My friends held me, let me cry, told me their own stories of losing themselves in relationships. Soon, Katie brought over two trays of Mediterranean food from a nearby camp, which I greedily devoured. Nathan checked in on me regularly, bringing me water and holding my hand.
Without even asking, I was getting my needs met—and by people who didn’t have to meet them (as I thought moms and boyfriends were obligated to do).
I started to feel better.
As my headache subsided and I felt capable of walking upright, I changed clothes and went out to the show. My friends made a place for me on top of the bar car, where I could see the Mutaytor set. I wasn’t feeling 100 percent, and since more than half the crowd seemed to be on some kind of psychotropic drug, I still felt pretty disconnected from the whole scene. But it was a nice change. When I finally went to sleep, I felt calm.

THURSDAY
I woke up Thursday morning alone. At first, I couldn’t decide how to feel about this. I was pleased to have gotten a full night’s sleep, without having to share a too-small mattress with my blanket-hogging boyfriend, but I was also gripped with worry, fear and anger: Where was he? Had he slept somewhere else? With someone else? Had he spent the whole night drinking or doing drugs and breaking our relationship agreements?
I went through my usual morning routine: wash with baby wipes, brush my teeth, cover myself in sunscreen, eat some breakfast.
I watched the front of camp for Jeff’s return, and resisted the urge to ask every person in camp if they’d seen him. And then I made a decision. I needed to get centered. I rode my bike alone across the playa, heading for the Temple of Venus, a camp I’d heard about earlier in the week when a friend said, “If there’s one thing you do at Burning Man, do this.”
Along the way, I saw a man in the road offering a fresh aloe leaf to the cracked and burned skin of a passersby. Vagina Appreciation Camp was on the left hand side, Bad Idea Theater on the right. I saw the book exchange, a mobile playa library parked near a cluster of shaded couches. But I didn’t stop.
At 2:00 and Mercury (the first concentric circle behind the Esplanade), I got off my bike.
A pathway led to a temple with white columns and white billowing fabric, where several women sat around a fountain. There were tents on all sides of the temple.
A woman named Mindy, who wore boy shorts, a camelback, boots and nothing else, greeted me and another newcomer, an older woman with a head full of braids. Mindy explained the camp’s purpose: to serve women’s needs, and teach them how to ask for what they want. The only men in the camp were there to provide services. Each tent catered to a certain set of needs.
In the Psychic tent, there were tarot card and energy readings. In the Emotional, you could get energy and therapy work done. The Spiritual tent was a sanctuary for meditation and prayer, and the Body tent was for massage. And in the back corner was the opaque Sensual tent, where women could choose from a menu of services ranging from kissing and erotic massage to deliberate orgasm (using mostly fingers and sex toys).
“I don’t know anyone here, and I want to get laid,” said the braided woman next to me. Mindy put her name on a list and led her to the Sensual tent. This whole process could have been awkward, but it remarkably was not. Mindy was kind, unflustered and easy to talk to.
I asked for water, which she brought me, and chose the Psychic tent first. Entering, I took off my shoes and joined a short-haired pixie on the floor. Next to us, a woman was doing a reading for someone else.
The pixie lit a fat bundle of sage and passed the smoke over me. Then she asked me to shuffle a deck of cards with prints of butterflies on the back and choose one to help me approach my life with a certain direction.
I chose Kindness.
I was annoyed. I was hoping for strength, or power, or self-love. Kindness, I thought, means I have to do what other people want. I have to do what Jeff wants. The pixie corrected me. It was about approaching all people—myself, most of all—from a place of kindness and love.
I left feeling lighter, and calm.
I crossed to the tent directly opposite, the Emotional tent. There, an older woman led me through a series of therapies intended to help me change my physical experience of painful memories—and therefore my emotional recollection of them. I chose a moment when, as a child, I lay alone in my bed while my pediatrician dad was out on rounds and my stepmom watched scary movies with my brothers. I felt completely alone, terrified, powerless, abandoned and angry, without any way to do anything about it. With the help of this woman, I took the image of the incident, turned it into black and white in my head and sped it up like an old movie. Then I added my favorite scent, freesia, to my experience of the moment. By the end of the session the power and intensity of the image had disspiated. I again felt lighter—and I couldn’t seem to dredge up the same panic, or rage, that the memory of that night used to inspire.
I mounted my bike and headed towards camp—and this is when I saw Jeff. He’d been half an hour behind me all day, looking for me, having been stranded in a friend’s camp the night before.
I was angry, annoyed, relieved and disappointed, but mostly I wanted alone time—I just wanted to eat, write and nap.
Amazingly, there was no crisis. We continued our evening without major conflict. Later, we crawled into bed together, happy and blessedly uncomplicated.

FRIDAY
A beautiful day—sunny, clear and even a little chilly. Jeff and I went for a ride on the Viking ship, a beautiful car my friends spent months designing, building and welding. It had a dragon’s head, a sunken bench area in the back, flat platforms to sit on in the front, a pole in the center (for dancing on or just holding and looking majestic), and a chain running from front to back that was strong enough to hang onto.
Some friends from La Conchita sat in the back eating cucumbers and carrots, which were delectable after days of dried, packaged food. I sat in the front and drank a cold beer.
But soon I tired of the Viking ship. It was too insulated, too predictable. All of my favorite experiences earlier in the week—from running into a mobile bar where blue-painted people poured tequila directly into our mouths, to finding a tent where we could make our own beaded necklaces, to the random encounter with the Naka-Ima boy on the Esplanade—happened out of chance.
Jeff and I got off the car and found our way to Gigsville, a collection of camps mostly from LA, and home to a camp who call themselves Rule Brittania and wear hats that make them look like British gentry in India. They were going to “colonize” other camps, which meant sticking flags in the dust and claiming those areas as part of their “empire.”
I loved the people, and this village. There are two aspects of Burning Man for me: the glamorous, performance-based side involving DJs and drugs and spectacular costumes—the side Clan Destino represents; and the irreverent, absurdist side which doesn’t take anything, including Burning Man, too seriously—like Gigsville.
People in Gigsville are the ones who protested Hands Across the Playa. They also staged the Loud Mime Rampage, where people dressed in striped shirts and berets and ran around the playa screaming, asking for drinks, and getting in people’s faces saying “You’re in a box! You’re in a box! How do you like it?”
I would’ve loved to go out colonizing with them, and in fact considered camping in Gigsville this year to be part of such activities, but I was feeling sick again and took it easy instead. I’d run out of water—a hazard of spending too much time away from camp—and had gotten stuck on the other side of the playa during what I call “Death Time,” the hours between 3pm and sunset when it’s hottest and driest. (I’m convinced this is part of the reason the whole playa cheers at sunset. Not only is it strikingly beautiful, but sunset means those miserable hours of headaches and lethargy are about to be over)
Around sunset, Jeff and I headed back home, ate some dinner, and then got ready for schoolgirl night at one of the other camps. It was freezing cold—the weather is unpredictable on the playa, and can change from boiling hot to raining to major sand storm to 32 degrees with little warning—so I wore pants under my schoolgirl skirt and a puffy down jacket over the whole ensemble.
We headed toward Center Camp, where Jeff bought coffee and a man played “Sweet Child of Mine,” “Low Rider” and “Iron Man” on bagpipes to a crowd of tired revelers splayed on couches.
Then we discovered that “Schoolgirl Night” was just two girls in plaid skirts dancing in cages. So we decided to go look at fire art instead, and spent the rest of the night chasing flames across the playa: a pendulum powered by four fire-spewing rockets at each corner, several large metal sculptures all spinning and burning at once, a fire tornado created by several giant fans.
The playa was alive with lights and music and costumed people in varying degrees of intoxication. And there were more people. Period. The weekenders had arrived and were ready to party. The port-a-potties would be a mess the rest of the event. The streets would be crowded all day and all night. Lines in Center Camp would be longer, and more people in plain clothes would be wandering about. And Burning Man was almost over.

SATURDAY
The day of the burn.
If it weren’t for events like the burn, performances in camp and the arrival of friends, we might never know what day it was on the playa. But Saturday, the night almost everyone at Burning Man gathers to watch the wooden sculpture burn, is the one calendar day everyone is aware of.
We’d completely run out of water, so Jeff went on a search for supplies. He found a camp that had nothing but water and alcohol, but wanted mixers. So we exchanged cartons of Monster energy drinks, Hansen’s smoothies and sodas for jugs of water.
Then we visited a friend’s project called White Noise: a little white house with white walls, white picket fence, a white tree, a white mailbox full of gifts people had left and a white bed and white dresser, a white book with white painted pages and a couple of empty scrapbooks people had written in. “Great place to fuck,” someone had written, “but it’s a little dusty.”
Jeff made Tasty Bites for dinner and put them in cut-off lids from water bottles, then we rode our bikes out to the bar car, where people had already started to gather. We climbed on top of the bar car, all squishing in; some of us on E, some of us not. Down below, a new friend did a disturbingly accurate rendition of MC Hammer’s “2 Legit 2 Quit” dance along with the music from a neighboring art car.
Then the burn finally started. The bottom burned first, then the geodesic dome the man stood on. Finally the fire started licking at the man’s feet. Others grumbled that it wasn’t going as planned, but I liked it. There was this suspense, this question of whether the man would burn or not. The heat of the fire combined with the cool night air made huge dust tornadoes, which spun out towards the crowd of fire dancers and onlookers. Several people broke from the masses and ran through them. Then finally, the flames licked up, the dome collapsed and the man—now burning—fell into the fire.
Thousands of people rushed the man. Now there was just a mob with a subtle circular motion near the center—like any outdoor concert around a mosh pit.
Everyone got off the bar car and said “Happy burn” and “Happy new year.” A friend handed out blow pops. The people on drugs started making plans for the night, debating which DJ would be at which dome. I was impatient and walked out to the sand. Finally, Jeff and I walked back to camp and took a nap on the couch, which I found strangely comforting with everything going on around us. It felt right to be in my clothes, out in the open, not in our “bedroom.” It wasn’t a commitment to be done for the night, but just…napping.

SUNDAY
Jeff woke me before sunrise. He’d borrowed a friend’s golf cart and bundled me onto it with my sleeping bag and fur blanket. My teeth chattered as we drove to the trash fence, an orange plastic fence meant to keep your garbage from leaving the event, that also acts as a boundary. On the other side, three girls in white makeup and black clothes walked arm and arm on the other side. A lone figure danced. A naked man did yoga.
The sun gradually peeked over the distant mountains and bathed the playa in brilliant yellow light. This is what everyone talks about, I thought. I’d never seen sunrise on the playa before, an admission which brings the same reaction at Burning Man as I get when I tell people in the real world I haven’t seen Lord of the Rings. “You what?”
Most people see the sunrise because they’ve stayed up all night on drugs or adrenaline; and I’d stopped doing drugs and started getting enough sleep long before I started going to Burning Man.
A small minority get up early enough to see it; and then there are the crazy health nuts who run naked laps around the perimeter of the trash fence and see it every morning. But nearly everyone acknowledges sunrise on the playa is a special time.
It’s a soft, magical, quiet moment when all the intensity of neon and glitter fades into a calm, natural light. Faces look angelic. Skin glows. The all-nighters who will look aged and sallow by noon somehow still sparkle at sunrise. Jeff and I got into a serious discussion about the meaning of Burning Man, the changes we’d seen over the years, and our ideas of identity with a sweet man dressed in Death Guild black leather and wearing an “INRI” tattoo across his belly.
Later, I visited my Gigsville friends, but they were already breaking things down. I drank a Pabst Blue Ribbon and rode to the Temple of Venus, but they were packing up too. Everything was coming down—and so quickly.
I met Jeff at a camp where a chemistry student from Berkeley made us pineapple and Malibu Rum slushies with liquid nitrogen out of giant tanks. When we returned to camp, lots of our friends had already gone, leaving empty spaces where their tents and cars used to be. Those of us who were left walked to the temple, a quarter-mile long edifice which (along with Center Camp) acted as a book-end for the ashes of what was still a sculpture of a man yesterday. We walked in twos through the dark, occasionally passing a bottle of wine between couples.
In front of the temple, there was a bit of a crowd. Some people with laser pointers turned the temple into their own light show. Otheres were horrified—as though this were like defacing the Vatican. “This is fucking meaningful!” one woman shouted. “Turn off your lasers!” At which point, no one did. Everyone was restless and irreverent.
Many people consider the temple burn more personal than the Man. (Some say the temple is the new Man, just as ‘gay’ is the new ‘black.’) Every year it’s been built, it’s been a delicate, intricate, impressive structure dedicated to a lost friend of the artist. Inside, people can leave notes, trinkets and prayers that will be burned with the rest of the building. Two years ago, after meeting Jeff and knowing I’d be ruining my relationship at home, I scrawled “What have I done?” and “I’m sorry” on a wood block. It’s also where Jeff went, alone, to commemorate the day (always during Burning Man) that his mother died. When the temple burned that year, we both cried.
This year, it wasn’t nearly so personal for me, but it was every bit as beautiful as it had always been. Two bridges stretched towards the center, spanning a quarter mile and converging at a two-story pagoda with a tall spire on top.
The fire started at the bottom and worked its way up (instead of racing in from the sides, as I’d hoped). It was lovely, but slow. I wandered away and found myself at the Chaos bar car. I finished my wine and had the bartender make me a drink (rum and Hansen’s) in my wine bottle. Someone commented on my dark hair, smooth skin and bright eyes. A new guy asked for a drink, then asked if the bartender wanted money.
“Money?” I asked and laughed.
He looked embarrassed. “I know, it’s not about that. But I don’t have anything to give her.”
I explained it’s a gift economy, not a barter economy, and he’d obviously never heard the phrase gift economy. He liked it. He was in a sweatshirt and jeans, and had a bike leaned up against the railing. Later he asked for a cigarette and offered me a dollar, then stopped himself.

MONDAY
It was early morning, still dark, and I didn’t want to go to sleep. Until now, I’d been fine with “missing out” (a.k.a. going to bed even if the world’s best DJ was spinning next door), since I knew there’d be more to see and more time to see it.
That night—or rather, that morning—was different. Suddenly I seemed to be making up for lost time. I drank more than I had all week. When I started to get sleepy, I took measures to stay awake. And I wanted to cut my hair.
Perhaps it was the alcohol. Maybe I was trying to cope with the impending end of what had been my best Burning Man so far. Or maybe I realized that Burning Man, an event that consistently changes people’s lives, redirects their focus and often acts as a catalyst for personal transformation, was the perfect place to take such a step—and I only had a few hours left in which to do it.
The idea wasn’t a new one; I’d been contemplating it for nearly six years. As a kid, I’d hated my frizzy curls. Then, when I learned to love them as a teenager, I began to associate them with femininity and sexuality. In college, I had several boyfriends who were horrified at the thought of me without my trademark long ringlets; and nearly everyone else I’ve ever told about the intended haircut—including my colored, bleached, dreaded and braided Burning Man friends—begged me not to do it.
For those reasons, I was wearing the same hair I’d had while struggling with anorexia as a pre-teen, while surviving my first major heartbreak and while watching my father die. I’d had this hair through drug addiction, years of chronic illness, starting and then leaving college, falling in love and coping with heartbreak yet again. Every day, cutting it seemed harder, and more significant. But of course, that was part of the reason I wanted to cut it: freedom, liberation, growth.
Most of our camp had gone to sleep. Jeff, another friend and I stood around a burn barrel with a group of strangers, watching the flames and basking in the heat made by the destruction of art.
It must be now, I thought.
I went alone to my tent to get some scissors, and had several moments of panic. Is this the right thing to do? I wondered. And the right time to do it? I’d felt sure and excited while near the fire, especially with Jeff next to me, but now… What was I doing?
I talked to people around the circle. One girl with hair like mine said she’d cut hers once, but immediately wished she hadn’t. Another said it’s just hair; and I cut a lock in response, but it felt forced—my own spontaneity, and the permanence of the action, scared me.
I asked others about how short to go, and when I explained what it meant to me—that it was more than just an aesthetic decision—they unanimously agreed I should go very short, if not shaved. Everyone seemed to understand why I needed to do this here and now.
Jeff asked me several times if I was really ready to do this.
I pushed any other doubts away. It felt like standing on the edge of the pool, preparing to jump. If I waited until I was ready, I thought, or tried to go in slow, I’d never make it all the way in. I sensed that once I got past the shock of the cold, I’d be glad to be in the water.
An art car arrived, then another, and people spilled out as I knelt on the ground between them. Jeff stood behind me and began to cut. My eyes were closed. My head grew lighter. I began to cry, then stopped. Jeff asked how short I wanted it and I said really short, then drank more alcohol.
Between snips, Jeff reached down and kissed me. It felt intensely personal, intimate, scary. It was like having him beside me during surgery, or through a life-and-death crisis. I’d never felt closer to him, or more grateful to have him with me.
As the sky grew lighter, we took the shorn locks he’d collected onto one of the art cars. At the trash fence, he finished, then emptied the hair onto the playa, doused it with white gas and drew a line away from the pile with more fuel. He handed the lighter to me.
I thought about all the years, all the experiences, all the limiting notions of who I am that were tied up in those strands of DNA—now separate from me.
I flicked the flint. A flame raced towards the pile. Jeff held me as I cried and watched it burn. It felt like being at my own funeral—or maybe a baptism—and again, I was grateful he was treating the event, and me, with the same solemnity I felt.
We shared a bottle of whiskey—I didn’t want to get sober yet.
Then we returned to the car, where we climbed onto one “wing,” where a giant fire cannon was welded to the car. Above me, the sun was rising. Below me, a small fire smoldered.
I straddled the cannon and let several large bursts of flame go. I felt more sexual than I ever had. And free.
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December 10, 2005 in Essays, Features, VC Reporter | Permalink | Comments (53)

MJ Eats Kittens For Dinner

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(published 7/14/05)

MICHAEL JACKSON NOT A FREAK! (WE WERE JUST KIDDING ABOUT THE COVER.)
DEFENSE TEAM VIDEOGRAPHER LARRY NIMMER SAYS MICHAEL’S MORE NORMAL THAN WE’VE BEEN LED TO BELIEVE

by Molly Freedenberg

If you think Michael Jackson is an alien, an experiment in plastic surgery, a freak with a mental disorder or a child-molester who can’t stop touching his own (and apparently everyone else’s) crotch, you’re not alone. It seems just about everyone these days, from the TV newscasters to the tabloid magazines to everyday citizens going about their lives, think the King of Pop uses his royal power for strange (at best) or evil (at worst) deeds—whether they believe the “not guilty” verdict or not.

But the Carpinteria-based videographers who worked with Jackson’s defense team on the trial say that just because In Touch and Court TV say Jacko’s wacko doesn’t mean he is. In fact, according to videographer Larry Nimmer and the two people who helped him film and edit video for Jackson’s defense team, the pale-faced, high-voiced star might not be (gasp!) a freak. And he might just be innocent too.

“I found him a lot more normal a person than he’s perceived,” said Nimmer, whose company Nimmer Legal Graphics helped Jackson’s defense team with everything from filming a tour of Neverland Ranch to editing outtakes from previous interviews to show during closing arguments.
During the process of working on these videos, Nimmer discovered that public and media perception of the pop prince may be seriously skewed. And he suspects the common suspicion that Jackson is, indeed, a child molester might be a result of the same sensationalist media and conservative culture that has most of America assuming Jackson just got away with a crime.

“My personal opinion is that no, he didn’t do it,” said Nimmer.

Nimmer’s assistant Tom Friedman agreed.

“Within about five minutes (on Neverland Ranch), I was convinced Jackson was innocent and is a generous, big-hearted person,” Friedman said.

WHAT DOES NIMMER (AND HIS TEAM) KNOW?
Larry Nimmer isn’t just a Jackson fan, blinded by devotion, who also happens to have some video editing skills.

Instead, he’s an upper-middle-aged multimedia producer in Carpinteria who makes his living with Nimmer Legal Graphics, a company that provides video, scale models, graphs and other visual aids for court cases. With an impressive resume that includes shooting music videos (he was doing it two years before MTV started airing them), working for the CBS TV news affiliate in San Francisco, creating numerous documentaries and overseeing the Santa Barbara Film Festival—and that’s all in addition to carving a place for himself as the premier legal graphics producer in the tri-county area—Nimmer’s the real deal: an objective, professional media producer with no personal stake in this, or any trial’s, outcome.

And his assistants were similarly un-invested in the trial or their image of Jackson. Tom Friedman, who frequently works with Nimmer on documentaries and legal videos, said he was never really interested in the pop star, but “like most people did, I thought he was a strange, potentially bizarre individual.” Another assistant, Chrissy Strassburg, said she’s always respected Jackson’s music, but distrusted his seeming insecurity and his obsession with his looks.

All made a commitment to approach their job as objectively as possible. When Friedman and Nimmer went to Neverland to film the tour, for example, Nimmer said he didn’t want to use any videographic “trickery” to create a sentimental or skewed view of the ranch. And the video they made, which showed a beautiful, rolling and surprisingly conservative estate, wasn’t just the selection of the more pleasant or normal aspects of Neverland—it was, said Nimmer and Friedman, an accurate portrayal of what it was like to be there.

“There were no weird pictures of kids, no pornographic titles on the shelves,” said Friedman. “I didn’t see anything at all that made me think, ‘If they see this, he’s going to fall.’”

THE RANCH
Three days of filming by Nimmer, with lots of help from Friedman and assistance on nighttime shots by Strassburg, led to a 19-minute video that jurors in the Jackson case saw. Originally, said Nimmer, Jackson’s defense had wanted to give jurors a tour of the ranch, which would not only give them a sense of Jackson’s personality and character, but would also relate directly to accusations of where and how the alleged molestation happened, or where and how the accuser’s mother said she was held against her will. But the judge wouldn’t allow it.

So since Jackson’s defense team couldn’t bring the jurors to Neverland Ranch, they had Nimmer Legal Graphics bring Neverland to the jury.

The process started with several days of visits, including all-access tours for Nimmer and his assistants. Jackson wasn’t there, since he was in court, and his kids were kept out of sight, per Jackson’s request, but otherwise Nimmer could see anything he wanted. He rode the trains on the property, visited the amusement park and the zoo, had lunch in the family dining room and peeked into the private wing of the main house, where Jackson and his kids have bedrooms.

“The prosecution made it out to be a place where only bad things happened,” said Nimmer, a tall, slender, bespectacled man with graying hair who could easily pass as someone’s science teacher. But he and his team said the mythical ranch is profoundly different than people might expect.
Yes, there are elements that are fantastical, whimsical or opulent, but for the most part, “it feels very normal, like a nice mansion,” said Nimmer. “It’s kind of a cross between Disneyland and a Montecito estate.”

The video seems to confirm this. Unlike the visions many of us might imagine—a colorful plastic landscape that would appeal to Tim Burton à la Charlie and the Chocolate Factory or a raucous, creepy, 24-hour carnival reminiscent of AI’s sin city—the ranch seems rather, well, tame. A modest gate with a low fence leads visitors onto a property of rolling lawns, idyllic lakes and ponds and lush, green trees. The real gate, up ahead, is only slightly bigger, and has only one security guard in a tower checking visitors.

Inside, there is Jackson’s house, a Tudor-style mansion in hues of browns and reds; the amusement park, which is impressive but not sprawling, all-encompassing or even, at that moment, running; the zoo, which resembles the stables and barns on many area ranches except that this one has giraffes and monkeys instead of horses and ponies; and the trains, which even seem tasteful and muted, more like enlarged model trains (which they basically are) than amusement park rides. There is a full-sized movie theater, with posters of Disney movies in the foyer and display cases full of free candy that is handed out by staff. Visitors also get freebie toys and sweets at the main train station.

But on the video, none of these elements seem anything other than ordinary. The only extraordinary thing about them is that they’re all on one property and that they seem to be made for the use of people who don’t live there.

The only thing Nimmer found a little strange was the constant music coming from speakers throughout the property. “It was kind of neutral and happy … and at first it was kind of fun, and then kind of tedious. I wonder how his kids react to it,” said Nimmer.
But otherwise, Nimmer and his team were impressed by how beautiful, tranquil and not that weird the ranch was. Especially Friedman, who’d imagined, “here’s this guy running around in his little, sad wonderland with giraffes frolicking in the fields when there’s so much poverty in the world and so many better ways to spend your money,” he said.

But once at the ranch, Friedman said it was obvious the property was made for the benefit of other people—and not to fulfill Jackson’s own stunted-childhood fantasies or to provide a backdrop for child abuse. The amusement park was clearly built on the scale for large groups of kids to visit, he said, many of whom probably arrived on the luxury bus Jackson had parked on the property, and didn’t seem to cater to any kind of one-on-one or private activity at all.

“This guy doesn’t get on his Ferris wheel every night and go whooping and screaming,” said Friedman. “I doubt very much he’s out there with a little balloon and a noisemaker riding it himself.”

In fact, the video shows a small, modest jungle gym behind the main house made of wood, the kind “you’d see in a very moderate public park, like in Carpinteria,” said Friedman. This seems to be the place where Jackson and his three kids actually spend their time.

“My guess is that he probably spends more time there with his kids than he does frolicking around the amusement park,” said Friedman. Instead, said Friedman and Nimmer, it seems clear that the park is there for the reason Jackson says it’s there: as a 700-acre fantasyland for sick and underprivileged kids who don’t have a chance to experience the real thing. After seeing it for himself, Friedman said it’s too bad Jackson gets a bad rap for something that’s so extraordinarily good.

“Even though it’s his private estate, he’s given a great deal over to the public good. Who else does that? Tom Cruise? Does Bill Gates do it? Does Steven Spielberg do it? Does Barbra Streisand do it? Turn over vast landholdings to access to people? To kids?” said Friedman. “He’s very, very unique … and he’s sacrificed his privacy to do it.”

THE HOUSE
Going inside Jackson’s mansion was even more illuminating for the video team, said Nimmer. The video shows a surprisingly grown-up house, with gold ornamentation and heavy furniture inspired by traditional French royalty. The only odd touches were paintings of Jackson with children, one of him as a kind of pied piper and one of him reading to a circle of kids, and several mannequins. But the paintings only seemed strange in a narcissistic, not a pedophiliac, sort of way, agreed Nimmer’s team.

And though the prosecution tried to paint Jackson’s mannequins as something strange, Nimmer said the dolls—one of which was a life-like butler at the front door holding a real plate of cookies, while another was a child playing upside down on a chair—“seemed to me kind of playful and fun.”
Friedman agreed, saying the mannequins were “not threatening … If he’s got the money and it tickles his funny bone, why not? ... I don’t think it’s sinister or creepy or implies that the guy’s a sexual predator,” he said, comparing Jackson’s penchant for mannequins to other people’s hobbies of collecting coins or photos of dogs.

Friedman also noted that the house itself, while large, wasn’t excessively so. The rooms were human scale, he said, reasonably informal and reasonably comfortable.

“There were no grand public rooms, no mirrored ballroom where Michael, in the certain moment, would appear and come down off a large balcony,” he said. “It was more like a ranch house than a palace.”

And both men noted that there were signs of real life all over the house and the property: from Jackson’s kids’ jackets hanging on pegs in the hallway to the sound of their giggling upstairs while Friedman and Nimmer ate lunch. There were photos of the kids all over the house too, said Nimmer, but most were turned around by staff so they wouldn’t get caught on videotape—which was part of Jackson’s request to protect the privacy of his family.

Outside on the lawn, there were also tricycles that obviously had been used over and over.
“The scooters and little bicycles were battered and just regular … it showed the presence of regular little kids,” said Friedman. “He could get each of those kids a solid gold jet-propelled tricycle, but he just had regular little tricycles. It shows there’s a very human side to this guy.”

Nimmer agreed and, in fact, made sure he got shots in the video of the trikes, the jackets and even a note reading “I love you even more than that … get well soon” that Jackson’s daughter Paris scrawled to him on a chalkboard.

“I wanted to convey to the jury the fact that he is a father and they’re real kids and they have a real relationship,” said Nimmer. In addition to the items he saw around the house, Nimmer also said Jackson’s relationship with his kids was clear from the other videos and interviews Nimmer had to sort through to make the tape for the closing argument, including outtakes from the documentary Living With Michael that seemed to imply Jackson liked sleeping with boys. Those outtakes, said Nimmer, showed “how much he likes talking about his kids and how close he is to the kids … which doesn’t really ever seem to come out in the press.”

In fact, Nimmer took particular issue with the documentary, made by Martin Bashir, which showed Jackson holding hands with a boy, who later became his accuser, and saying he liked sleeping in beds with boys.

“Bashir did not include a lot of the positive stuff about Michael that was shot in the documentary,” said Nimmer.

THE VERDICT
But when it came to deciding whether Jackson was innocent or not, said Nimmer and his team, the facts were the most important part of the trial—a component Nimmer said most of the media seemed to ignore.

“I found it surprising how the media could come up with so many stories based on so little information, when each day there wouldn’t be that much more to report on … They spend a lot of their time speculating,” said Nimmer, who still said he found media coverage—and the spectacle outside the courthouse—entertaining. It was just too bad it was at the expense of someone’s life, he said.

Nimmer said the media seemed to perpetuate the myth of Jackson as a freak, and therefore as a possible molester. And he credits a lot of that to Jackson’s childlike nature, which he witnessed mostly while editing interviews like Bashir’s. Nimmer says Jackson cultivates a childlike nature for composing his music, creating his dances and promoting humanitarian causes.

“People in our country tend to be very conservative and suspect bad intentions and in general think Michael Jackson’s a fool because he’s childlike, whereas I think it’s really refreshing,” said Nimmer. “I’m kind of upset how people automatically dismiss him because he’s childlike.”

As for the accusations themselves, Nimmer and his team said most of them just didn’t add up. For example, the accuser’s mother said she was held at Neverland against her will, without any way to leave or any idea what time it was. But Nimmer’s video shows the posh guest house the woman easily could have left, the clocks all over the property and the scores of staff—including security guards, housekeepers, an administrative team and groundskeepers—who were too numerous, and seemed too down-to-earth, to make likely conspirators or captors.

“I didn’t see any cameras in the trees, monitors on the walls, didn’t see any bloodhounds or electrified fences, any pits with sharpened stakes,” said Friedman. “She could have walked to the road and climbed over the fence.”

Another accusation was that the accuser’s brother came up the stairs to Jackson’s bedroom and saw the pop star touching the boy inappropriately. But Jackson’s defense team argued that an alarm system set up in Jackson’s private wing would’ve been triggered by the brother’s approach, thus making the story impossible (and therefore all the stories not credible)—a fact Nimmer proved with his video.

The prosecution’s claim that Jackson had a house full of porn seemed less likely, said Nimmer, when he visited Jackson’s library of 200,000 books—which ranged in topic from art history to old Hollywood to child-rearing to religion, and made up only a part of the star’s full 700,000-book collection.

And assistant Chrissy Strassburg said, after seeing video of the accuser’s mom saying how much she trusted Michael during a time when she thought the camera was off, that there was no way she could believe the woman was telling the truth about being held at Neverland.

THE MAN
With the evidence seemingly stacked in Jackson’s favor, Nimmer, Friedman and Strassburg were relieved and reassured to know that they were working for the “right” side. And in the process, they learned even more about Jackson.

Nimmer, who only actually met the pop star once, the day Jackson thanked the videographer when he testified about the Neverland video in court, said Jackson was shy, humble, kind and “taller than I thought he would be. I thought he would be a short guy.”

From video footage, though, he and his team got all kinds of insight into the star’s life: the debilitating chiding he got from his father and cousins about his “fat” nose and bad skin, which may have led to the plastic surgery he had later in life; the young Jackson’s practice of using the money he made performing to buy candy for the neighborhood kids, which naturally extended to a place like Neverland; the way Jackson tried over and over to correct Bashir when he implied that he liked having sex with boys, when what the pop star said was “When you say the word ‘sleep,’ you said it as if it’s sexual. ‘Sleep’ is getting in bed with somebody because they don’t want to be alone when they sleep,” Strassbourg quoted.

And like the jury, they all came to a unanimous decision: Michael didn’t do it.

What’s more, they understand where he’s coming from.

“I don’t believe it’s necessarily wrong to sleep in a bed with a child,” said Nimmer, who used to share a tent with his sons and their friends on Indian Guide camp-outs. “It was kind of like a sleepover, and clearly there wasn’t anything sexual going on there.”

Friedman agreed.

“I don’t see anything wrong with him having kids sleep in his bed with him,” said Friedman, who used to look forward to sharing a bed with his grandfather during childhood holidays. “It’s a sweet gesture. I think it’s very intimate.”

The bottom line, says Nimmer, is it makes him sad that Jackson has had to go through all of this simply because he wants to give back to children and he enjoys their non-threatening company.
“It’s an incredible hoax that the accuser’s family has pulled off to, one, monopolize the life of a superstar and, two, monopolize the world media by coming up with a bogus story,” he said. “Which I believe it is. And which the jury seems to believe it was.” ■

July 14, 2005 in Features, VC Reporter | Permalink | Comments (0)

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